[BUILD] Need fine-grained HAVE_CPP_STDLIB #8528

Job	Run time
Bazel nortti	23m 23s
Bazel asan config	11m 3s
Bazel noexcept	27m 0s
Bazel on MacOS	27m 42s
Bazel	20m 26s
Bazel with async export	20m 26s
Bazel tsan config	29m 20s
Bazel valgrind	27m 21s
Bazel with external abseil	19m 59s
Benchmark	14m 19s
CMake test (with abseil)	6m 12s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, async)	20m 3s
CMake clang 14 (maintainer mode, sync)	17m 5s
CMake do not install test (with otlp-exporter)	20m 36s
CMake gcc 4.8 (with otlp exporter)	17m 32s
CMake gcc 4.8 (without otlp exporter)	6m 48s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, async)	12m 10s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, C++11, async)	11m 3s
CMake gcc 12 (maintainer mode, sync)	11m 36s
CMake install test (with abseil)	6m 21s
CMake test (with modern protobuf,grpc and abseil)	28m 27s
CMake msvc (maintainer mode)	10m 29s
CMake test (with opentracing-shim)	6m 5s
CMake test (build shared libraries with otlp-exporter and static gRPC)	23m 51s
CMake test (with otlp-exporter)	19m 39s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter)	6m 45s
CMake C++14 test(GCC)	5m 54s
CMake C++17 test(GCC)	8m 14s
CMake C++20 test(Clang with libc++)	11m 42s
CMake C++20 test(GCC)	11m 41s
CMake test (without otlp-exporter and with async export)	7m 1s
Code coverage	13m 13s
Copyright	10s
DocFX check	49s
Format	21s
markdown-lint	9s
misspell	9s
Plugin -> CMake	1m 43s
CMake -> exporter proto	16m 35s
Bazel Windows	36m 44s
Plugin -> CMake Windows	10m 13s
CMake (With async export) -> exporter proto	23m 10s
CMake -> exporter proto (Build as DLL)	21m 29s
	10h 14m 58s

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