configure stalled stream protection

[trinity-1686a]

Description

may fix #5294
configure StalledStreamProtectionConfig. For some reason, when unconfigured, the default grace period is 5s, but when configured, the default is 20s.
If this doesn't fix #5294, we can do

StalledStreamProtectionConfig::enabled()
    .upload_enabled(false)
    .build()

to restore pre march behaviour. I believe it would be best to keep this enabled if possible, as it allows earlier detection of dead connections.

How was this PR tested?

verified from aws debug logs that it picks the correct timeout

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